Bridal Shower Etiquette

If you are throwing a shower, you have probably realized by now that it is not a simple task. And, if a successful party is your goal, remember these etiquette hints to make your guests feel welcome.


Who to invite?


Anyone who is invited to the shower must also be invited to the wedding, aside from special circumstances such as a destination wedding. Go through the bride’s address book discussing friends and relatives whom she may want there. Don’t forget to include the groom’s family members. Several potential guests may live too far to travel for the shower, however they should be acknowledged with an invitation. They will appreciate the thought.


Invitation and registry etiquette


Similar to wedding invitations, be sure to address one invitation per person, even if they are living in the same household. Send the invitations with appropriate lead-time-about a month in advance of the shower. Enclose directions and a phone number in case people get lost.


Many choose to include the store names in which the bride and groom are registered. If you find this option ill-mannered, you may let the guests know by word-of-mouth. If you are hosting a personal shower for the bride, spread the word about the bride’s taste and clothing size.


The guests have arrived!


Though you may know everyone at the shower, some people may know few people, or possibly no one. Be sure to have a “greeter” stand post at the door to say hello to new arrivals. The greeter should tell guests where they can put their coat or belongings, their gift for the bride, and where they can find refreshments. The greeter can also make introductions if the guest is not acquainted with anyone.


Start with an icebreaker.


Select an icebreaking activity, or simply go around the room and have the guess state their name and relationship to the bride. This will initiate conversations and help people get into a festive mood.


The party is over.


Before the guests leave, be sure you have their names, addresses and the gift they brought listed so the bride may write thank you notes within the next week. Thank each guest for coming and be sure they have a safe ride home, especially if alcohol has been served at the shower.